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OK, this is not as much for seeking advice (although I’m sure I’ll get plenty!) as to commiserate with other husbands whose vanilla-minded wives simply will not even entertain the notion of swinging or anything beyond the realm of monogamous sex.
I know very well that swinging must be totally mutual between both spouses for it to be a positive experience. My motivation here is to enhance our fairly decent sex life. We’re 52 and 50, married almost 28 years, two kids, our own business, and a great relationship. She’s rather conservative, very modest.
I’ve always had a much greater sex drive than her and a need for more “out there” sex. I have indeed cheated on her our entire lives together, having many affairs, one-night stands, liaisons on business trips, even bisexual experiences. I’ve enjoyed it all, and have been immensely careful not to leave any clues or slip up, and she has no idea about my “other” life.
I truly love my wife dearly. She is still very sensuous and attractive, and I’ve taught her a few new things over the years, like enjoying the use of toys, and how to squirt.
Truth is, I do not have any guilt regarding my infidelity, but I’m tired of it. Too much effort and time wasted setting up secret rendezvous, etc. I want to experience the pleasures of non-monogamous sex WITH my lady by my side; I want to share it with her and not have to decieve her anymore.
I pondered it for months, studied the lifestyle, did voluminous research on the topic. I finally dropped the bomb on her on (of all days, you idiot!) Mother’s Day! She exploded. No, she IMploded. Whatever, it was the most shocking, terrifying thing to ever happen to her in our relationship – she thought the dream was over. She was so scared, hurt, confused, repulsed. I finally had to backpedal and try to talk to her rationally and we went to marriage counseling only two days later (at MY behest, not hers!). I needed to be able to talk to her via the thrid party there. I needed to ease her pain. Anyway, things went well there, and we opened a new line of communication. She never suspected I was so…sexual..so kinky. This man she’d known almost all her life was different now in a way, and it still leaves her a bit muddled and confused.
She tried to learn what the attraction is. She even looked online at various swinger’s sites, the Freedom Acres site, etc. She wanted to know what her man was interested in doing. She couldn’t agree with any of the positives all you folks were preaching. She did suggest she might go to a club just for me, to “get it out of my system” , but she’ll sit in the bar and interact with no one…maybe go back to the car if it’s too much. What fun.
We’ve rarely watched porn; she has no interest in seeing other people having sex and it doesn’t arouse her (so much for same-room sex). She doesn’t have any fantasies about having sex with other people. She doesn’t talk dirty and the word “fuck” is almost impossible to pry out of her mouth.
We do have reservations at the Terra Cotta Inn in Palm Springs in early November. It’s a clothing optional resort and I hope she’ll become a bit more comfortable around naked people. She’s agreed to go but made it clear she intends to remain clothed. I told her that’s fine. I’ll be naked. I appreciate her even going with me.
Anyway, I wonder if there are other men on here with equally hopeless situations. I’ve all but resigned myself to the fact that I’ll never get to indulge in that forbidden pleasure of outside sex WITH my wife there, enjoying it with me. It is deeply disappointing, and I like to believe that somehow, someday, she might come around on her own. But not too likely.
Comments? How do you handle this? Do you keep pressing? Did you give up?
Why exactly are you here reading the forum like me?
- DKent

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Yeah, I’m looking for cock, but so many are so aggressive and the replies are so goofy that sometimes I just throw my hands up in the air.

They write for Example: So, when can we fuck.

#1 . I’d like to fuck you and think your hot. I’m 6’3 200lbs and well hung.

#2. Well, it doesn’t tell me anything but this guy is goofy if he thinks that I’m just going to go meet up with him. He didn’t say anything about his interests sexually or anything..and didn’t include a photo. This is what I get 90% of the time.

#3. I think swingers sites should include a diagram of what people should put about themselves, and no matter what , they should always have a photo in their profile. Cause’ 9x’s out of 10 they aren’t real anyway if they aren’t including a photo. This is what I’ve always experienced. And…when they don’t include a photo, sometimes they are just plain self concious. In my opinion, they shouldn’t be in the lifestyle to begin with if they are that self concious and have their own issues to deal with.

I know, I’m a bitch…lol…. but at least I’m truthfull.

Macy

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Alright guys/gals, long time viewer finally wanting to jump in and join the forum….so go easy on me for awhile.
My situation is very similar to what you guys read almost on a daily basis, so I understand that I’m very far from cornering the market here.

That said, here goes. I’ve been married almost seven years to a good woman,mother and wife. She’s attractive, hard working, trustworthy and kind ( except during arguments, LOL). The problem is, and I hate to label religon as a “problem” that it seems that her religious/spiritual beliefs put a damper on sexual openness, let alone swinging with others. While she does enjoy sex, it’s limited to two or three positions,mutual oral and that’s about it. I did, however, manage to take some nude pictures of her and us together. And, interestingly, she got very excited during our session and took over the camera and started snapping some pics of her own.

Over the years we’ve roleplayed a bit, sometimes inquiring how her “boyfriend” is doing,or you better get done quick before my husband gets home. Mostly mild stuff that has never progressed past the pillow talk stage. She has, at times, mentioned swinging. Never in the context that led me to believe that she was seriously intersted. However, that she mentioned it does pique some curiosity in me. Is she fascinated? Or revolted?

Honestly, I’m afraid to bring up the matter to her other than “play” pillow talk. As she is conservative sexually, I’m afraid she’ll decipher this as a desire on my part to be unfaithful or I’m attempting to compromise her values/morals.

A word or two about her usual sexual nature. I’m sure there are married men that have it far worse than me. In fact, I really don’t have it so bad, considering all the qualities my wife posseses. Still, I long for her to be aggressive, instead of making sex so routine, as it’s comparable to changing the oil in our car. I wish she would push her boundaries, and/or comfort level. Wear lingerie or talk dirty. Deep down, I’ve always suspected that my wife has a wild and adventurous side….I just have no idea how to tap into it. Most of you that walk in my shoes, will probably say get used to it, or leave. I refuse to do both, as I believe there is a way to break down her blocks.

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Well, maybe we found them, but we didn’t have sex with them…yet…

Mrs. SIPs and I were out for dinner and drinks for my birthday. As we found seats at a crowded bar, an attractive couple sat down next to us. She smiled right at me and soon struck up a conversation. Turns out we live not too far apart, have kids the same age, some professional stuff in common, so there was plenty to talk about.

During pauses in the conversation, I whispered to Mrs. SIPs that i thought they might be swingers. I noticed them also conferencing a lot – big tip off. We kept not wanting to leave, so drank a bit much, but we agreed it should be Mrs. SIPs who broke the ice. Luckily, before we did, Mr. Fun said “now all we need to do is find a hot nanny…” and I knew it was on.

Mrs. SIPs took a pause in the conversation to ask, “So…do you guys like to…meet couples…?” and Lo and Behold, Mrs. Fun declared it was something they had been considering and we had indeed set off their playdar!

Turns out they weren’t quite ready to play (yet), but we did kiss them – a big step for her in particular but very exciting for them and us. We traded numbers and stumbled home.

But really – what are the chances that the hot couple that sits down next to you are swingers?!? AND that you would have the nerve to talk to each other about it? What an experience. Even if we don’t hear from them, it’s just great to know it can happen.

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Tonight’s PornCouple Show is all about swinging – something Alanna & Seth have been involved in for over a dozen years, at clubs & parties all over the country (and a few other places too!). If you have questions about swinging or are just interested in what it’s like and how people deal with the issues that come from the polyamorous lifestyle, tune in – and we’ll still have a few minutes of designated wanking time for those who just need to get off right away! See ya there…11 pm ET/8PT at http://www.rude.com/AlannaThomas?mynextshow It’s FREE!!!