Swinger College

I joined a little while back, and seems like a forum full of helpful and nice people; so thought I’d see what advice and insights someone may be able to offer. As I’ve mentioned in other posts, I’ve been wanting a MFM threesome for a while. One of the men involved would be my friend, that I’ve been seeing for about the past year; and I have begun to search for a second canidate. I started chatting with a guy from a swingers site yesterday, and he seems pretty nice so far; so we made tenative plans to meet for coffee after the first of the year.

Here is where the situation gets a bit sticky… I was telling my friend about the guy I’ve been chatting with. My friend is white, and the guy I’ve been chatting with is black. Once I told my friend that the guy I’ve been chatting with is black, he expressed that he doesn’t trust black guys; and wouldn’t/couldn’t do a threesome with someone who is black. In the time that my friend and I have known each other, controversial topics such as race haven’t come up too much; so I didn’t realize that he would have a problem- with doing a 3 way with someone of another race.

Now I’m not sure how to handle this situation, should me and the guy I’ve been chatting with; hit it off when we meet in person. I don’t want to preasure my friend into anything, or force the issue; but I am also unsure about what to tell the guy I’ve been chatting with. I certainly don’t want to tell the guy I’ve been chatting with, sorry my friend won’t do a threesome with you; because you’re black- or my friend doesn’t trust black guys. Any advice on how to handle this, would be greatly appreciated!

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Ok, here’s the situation, just starting to get to know someone. Up til now, past boyfriends were sooo against this lifestyle. He seems interested, we both have the same views about it. So, my question is, can you start a relationship and explore swinging at the same time, or do you establish a relationship first, then explore the swinging? Oh, by the way, we are looking for a serious relationship.

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I was going to post this as a poll but did not see where we could do a poll anymore…Ok so here is the situation and question:

On several occassions we have been to Hotel Parties and House parties and have met couples or came to the party with couples and after a night of flirting with these said couples, thinking there would be more…These said couples end up playing with someone else at the Hotel or House party.

Which we have no problem with…Here is the question. After awhile
the couples will return back to the party and ask us if we want to play or return and when we go to leave say they were hoping we would stay and play.

Just curious on what others take are on this? Do you go back and play?…or chose to pass this time and play with said couples another time…

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It would be a real turn on for me to see Ronny do it with another guy, but he gets the ‘I’m not gay’ thing going. When we talk about fantisies, he says that he would like to eat me while I was getting fucked, which he admits would mean eating the other man’s cum, and licking his dick. He’s even said he would suck his cock if I wanted him to, which I would like to see. I’d really like to watch someone fuck him. Do couples do this, or is this outside the lines?

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We have M&G’s about once a month and their good to meet new folks and see some friends you don’t get to see often. The thing is the anticipation of hooking up at the end of the night with other couples for playtime and not being able to host at our house so that’s a big drawback. We were thinking of skipping the M&G and having a play party at a hotel within two joining rooms and asking for donations of 10 dollars to help pay for the rooms. Four double beds and limit it to 6 couples. Munchies and BYOB and the rules would be the same as a house party, except this is at a hotel.

The questions is, would you be interested in paying to go to a playing party and how would you like night to go? I know they have bigger hotel parties, but we’re from a small town. Has anyone tried this and have any suggestions or comments?

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Help!!

We are relatively new to the lifestyle, we’ve had a couple of successful encounters that we have held far away from where we live, that have worked out well for us. Now we have decided to explore the community in the city where we live, to build a circle of friends and playmates. We advertised on swing board and met a nice couple who are active in the local community, and are fairly experienced Through them, they have introduced us to a whole little community of people. We’ve gone now to a couple of social events and have spent some time with them, and we enjoy their company. The problem is neither of us feel any sexual chemistry for either them, but they feel it for us.

How do we say no to them nicely, without losing the budding friendship? We certainly don’t want them to think that we were simply using them for their connections.

Advice??

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I know this would be a long post but bear with me.

My wife and I have been married for 2 years but together for 6. She is 28 and I am 33yrs old. She is petite, very shapely (sexy) while I am tall athetic built. You see this is important as she was always a looker. Guys couldnt help themselves when go out. Since we have been married though I guess we let ourselves get boring. Always home.

Well as luck would have it we were able to go to HEDO II recently. We mingled with a lot of people and had lots to drink, we used HEDO as our own sex park but then it happened……

For sometime we have been playing with the idea of a threesome. Of course there are trust issues with this concept, but I could not believe how the concept turned me on. She also could not believe it. While at hedo we would leave our door to the room open just to see if anyone would come and join one of our sessions. I would blindfold her and have my way with her, both of us knowing that other guests were looking at its. But to our disappointment nobody had the balls to come in.

I then decided maybe I needed to invite someone. This was of course discussed and we selected a likely person. He was a lot older than both of us but fit. Had a movie star kinda built. He agreed to join and also invited another couple to our room.

I was in the middle of getting a BJ with my wife in a doggy style position when the first of our guests arrives. The young lady just went straight behind my wife and started oral. Oh man that just turned me on. From there it was just torrid sex. The guy we first invited was very careful and ensured my wife was always aroused. We both caressed her, played with her, massaged her, and took turns entering her. It just turned me on to see his member, separate and enter my wife. She just love it. having my dick in her mouth and on in her pussy.

The rest of the night was all about the girls. Orgasm after orgasm. I dont think that any of the guys came as we just had fun playing with them. Afterwards we all just retired to some wine at the hot tub.

We are definitely doing this again.

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Let me start off by saying I am a married straight guy, who has no intentions of having a regular swinging relationship with my wife. Not only would she object to the idea, I just couldn’t share her in that way.
With that being said, I am selfish not only in not wanting to share her, but I am selfish because I cannot seem to stay faithful to my wife. I have cheated on every person I have ever been involved with, and its something I cannot seem to stop doing. Often times I think it might be genetic, because I have learned it stems from my grandfather, and suspicions of his father cheating as well.

Here is a little background on a swinging experience I had, to see where my train of thought is now. I was in Las Vegas with 3 friends for a convention 2 years ago. The first night there, one of my friends and I hung out at the bar in the hotel drinking. We met a couple from Oklahoma and really hit it off. We were buying them drinks, they were buying us drinks, and after a while the female asked me what I was into. I hesitantly asked “what do you mean?”, and she replied “as in drugs, do you like them or do them?”. I opened up and said yeah, I experiement but don’t make it a habit or do it often. I explained that the Vegas trip is something I had planned on letting loose for, and I did come prepared.
She told me to go back to her room because they had some cocaine. I went back to the room with the male, and up there he asked me what I thought of his girlfriend. I said she is very sexy and he is a lucky guy. He then asked if I would be interested in having sex with her. He explained it would be nothing gay, he and I wouldn’t touch, but we would both make love to her. I of coarse jumped on the idea. So long story short, the couple from Oklahoma and myself topped the night off with some great sex in their room. Being in Vegas, and having so many options I never did get to do it again which I really wanted to, but just never found the time to get back with them. They did call me several times trying to cordinate another meeting, but we could never make it work.
Ever since then, I have thought about that night almost everyday replaying it all in my mind. I know it was a 1 in a million chance it happened, but would really like to relive that experience. I consider myself a good person, but have always dreamed about having sex in groups. Like MMF or every man’s dream FFM, or even a lot of males with 1 female. I am straight, and have never even had any curiosity to be with another male. Like I said above, I would never want to have my wife find out about my past experience, or know of anything I do outside of our marriage.
Does that make me just a cheating asshole? I have tried to be a good husband, but I always end up searching for something on the side. In my mind, searching for swingers might be the way to go now. Someone that I can trust to keep my secret, because my wife doesn’t know that I have ever cheated on her. In my mind, swingers are probably safer about sex then most 1 night stands I would find.
My final question is, is searching for another couple to have more or less regular play times with a waste of time for me? I know that most couples, would like to have another couple to have fun with, instead of just 1 guy.
Maybe none of this makes sense, but I am trying to figure out what direction I need to go, to both settle my urges, and keep my marriage intact. Thanks in advance for all your help.

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