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Anyway….

Last night we went out to meet a couple, who’d invited us and a bunch of other couples to a bar. One of the other couples, it turned out, had written to us not once, but twice before. The first time was around a year ago and the second time was last fall. We had passed both times. They seemed like a nice couple, but their pictures did not do them any favors, and truthfully, we did have a lot going on at the time. We gave them the “we’re happy with our present routine, maybe we’ll meet at a party” type of almost-a-brushoff. Well, last night we definitely connected with them. They looked a lot better in person than in their profile pictures (boy they could use some help with those! I think their pictures hurt them and they shouldn’t have that hurdle!), and they were both outgoing, friendly and flirtatious. We didn’t realize who they were, except we knew we knew them, somehow. But from the look on his face and his mention of earlier emails, I got the idea that we had turned them down.

So later on, back at the host couple’s house, there were 5 couples. Mr. Fuse played for a long time with the lady of the couple we met through them. Though I was mostly busy with the boyfriend of the host (yum) I know I let the subject couple’s gentleman know I was interested. We didn’t get to do a lot, but he knows.

My point is that even when someone has passed on you, it doesn’t mean you will never connect with them. Leaving doors open is a good thing. Many other couples might have acted a bit cool, or even negatively, but these people did not and we are happy about it. They were very gracious and warm, probably more so than we would have been.

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I’ve talk alot about it with my husband and he has agreed not to do anything until I am comfortable with it.

But my thing is, when I think of swinging I think, “Hey this could be fun!” but at the same time I don’t like the idea about my hubby with another woman. I do have a little body image issue, but I am getting over that since talking with others and having people tell me how good I look for having baby number 3.

We (hubby and I) have talked about this issue, but I worry that it might control swinging and all together stop it before it happens.

I’ve started a plan which is until baby is born some soft swinging, same room same couples sorta thing. And hopefully I will become better about this issue.

I’m just wondering if this is normal when you first start out.

The weird part is I don’t know why I feel this way. Hubby is fine waiting, and wont push me to do something I am not happy about. But just the thought and I get uneasy. Is this maybe just jitters?

Thanks for any advice or stories.
Mrs. O

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Spent last night at the swing club and today at a M&G at a strip bar, and my wife has just never been so in the sights of single guys. Even today the guy did not get the hint after we got up and moved after he sat down. He was not being physically in appropriate, just very predatory. The wife was not in the best of moods today (tired from our fun last night) and just that small encounter sent that mood spiraling down.

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Well when you are in the middle of the living room with four naked people you don’t really want to open the door. You have to think about getting the condom off. Throwing it away. Leaving a girl naked with her legs spread is never easy. So the other three hid in a corner and I put some pants on. I was careful to keep my beans below my frank, and answered the door…Well they were cargo shorts.. the room was a little dark but something did not feel right…

So the pizza guy said the pizza was 18 dollars. So I reached for my wallet… Well it was not on my left side..funny…I did the pat down and found it on my right.. I got it out and looked at it strangely… it was not my wallet… I looked down at the pants and said to the pizza guy ” these are not my pants”.. well the other three thought this was very funny.. I must say it is a bit embarrassing to find out you are not wearing your pants. So I said hold on a second.. I started searching the pile of cloths on the floor… Bras…thongs…shirts skirts… and finally my pants…it is sort of like the cops you can’t find them when you need them… the three were laughing harder and harder while I was searching.

So I paid the man and off he went.. Can’t say what he thought.

So even now when I am watching COPS and when the cops pull crack out of the crack heads pants and the crack head says ” but these are not my pants” I have to laugh and wonder what kind of party he had been at… and that he might be telling the truth.

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I have to say as much as I hoped this would happen someday, I never thought she would really do it. I still can’t believe it!!! She said never had feelings for women before we started swinging, and now we can talk openly about it to a degree… She is ready to explore some more at this point. Is this the way most of the other bi-curious, bi-sexual swinging women got started?

Mr. Wildfire

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That said, here goes. I’ve been married almost seven years to a good woman,mother and wife. She’s attractive, hard working, trustworthy and kind ( except during arguments, LOL). The problem is, and I hate to label religon as a “problem” that it seems that her religious/spiritual beliefs put a damper on sexual openness, let alone swinging with others. While she does enjoy sex, it’s limited to two or three positions,mutual oral and that’s about it. I did, however, manage to take some nude pictures of her and us together. And, interestingly, she got very excited during our session and took over the camera and started snapping some pics of her own.

Over the years we’ve roleplayed a bit, sometimes inquiring how her “boyfriend” is doing,or you better get done quick before my husband gets home. Mostly mild stuff that has never progressed past the pillow talk stage. She has, at times, mentioned swinging. Never in the context that led me to believe that she was seriously intersted. However, that she mentioned it does pique some curiosity in me. Is she fascinated? Or revolted?

Honestly, I’m afraid to bring up the matter to her other than “play” pillow talk. As she is conservative sexually, I’m afraid she’ll decipher this as a desire on my part to be unfaithful or I’m attempting to compromise her values/morals.

A word or two about her usual sexual nature. I’m sure there are married men that have it far worse than me. In fact, I really don’t have it so bad, considering all the qualities my wife posseses. Still, I long for her to be aggressive, instead of making sex so routine, as it’s comparable to changing the oil in our car. I wish she would push her boundaries, and/or comfort level. Wear lingerie or talk dirty. Deep down, I’ve always suspected that my wife has a wild and adventurous side….I just have no idea how to tap into it. Most of you that walk in my shoes, will probably say get used to it, or leave. I refuse to do both, as I believe there is a way to break down her blocks.