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A few questions:
Some background information: My wife and I are young (23), have been married for 2 years, and in a relationship for 5. We both are sex-positive advocates and are forward about it in appropriate contexts. We have been looking at the lifestyle for about a year, but are holding off for several reasons.
First, about 7 years ago my wife was raped, and she repressed it and kept it hidden from everybody. When we met, (me being a psychology major) I noticed several things that indicated she would need counseling. Through counselling and the growing intimacy of our relationship we figured out alot about how this traumatic event affected her. For starters, she severly struggled being sexual with people she cares about. This goes through seasons and sometimes we may be sexual a couple times a week, and others it might be a couple times in six months. However, she is completely ok with strangers, because she can emotionally disconnect from them.
Question 1: Considering her background, would swinging be a viable option for us.
Question 2: During her “valley” seasons, would it be a good or bad idea for me to swing alone (she is the one who suggest this and thinks its a great idea)
Question 3: Considering our age, her background, and the seasonal things, how difficult would number 2 be for me to find partner(s)?
Thanks for taking the time to read this!
