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My husband and I went to a club for the first time last night. We were really having a good time. People were friendly and we were talking and laughing and I was up dancing and all was good.
I should say up front that we are totally new to all of this. I want to explore my curiosity of being with a woman. We aren’t interested in full swap, just girl on girl and then finish with our own partners, same room is fine. I met a girl on the dance floor and we danced and laughed and had a good time and she started kissing me and all was well. I got my husband and we joined them at their table where we sat around talking. I was very honest about what I wanted as was my husband.
When we got into a room it was totally different then we talked about and her husband who I hadn’t really gotten to know decides to very roughly stick his fingers in me. I was not a happy camper and my husband repeated again that wasn’t what we were into. I felt really nervous and I didn’t really know what to do, and I shouldn’t have but I felt guilty just leaving after we decided to take them into a room. Almost obligated to finish waht we started. The wife started making out with my husband and he was like are you comfortable with this and I tried to be but I wasn’t, and for the first time in 15 years Mr Happy wasn’t ready to go to work. I took that opportunity to say sorry guys my husband is really nervous and I don’t think this is going to happen and we got our stuff and left the room.
Needless to say I feel really sad and disappointed. I feel violated by this man who did not have my permission to do what he did to me. Were we taken advantage of because we were new? It feels like this guy used his wife to get to me. Like once they got us back there they could do whatever. Does this happen a lot? Did we do something wrong? If you tell someone up front what you are looking for and they agree shouldn’t they stick to it?
This was our first experience and while it was mainly good the end of the night has me so freaked out and I feel really depressed about it. Can we even go back or will this couple tell people we bailed on them and make us seem awful? We’d like to go back again but maybe just flirt and then put on a good show for everyone. Is that acceptable or do you expect full swaps from people while at clubs? Any advice is much appreciated.
