Swinger College

We know literally hundreds of happy, swinging couples who go out nearly every weekend and have sex with someone – or in some cases, several someones! – other than their significant other. None of them would consider what they are doing ‘cheating.’

We also know plenty of people – sadly, mostly guys – who are active members of the swinging community who are, on a regular basis, cheating on their significant other.
What’s the difference? Honesty.
When we speak of swingers, we generally speak of couples. There are singles who swing, of course…I can name a few singles who were part of a couple that split up and then continued their activity in the swinging community, and there are single guys who actively ‘play’ with swinger couples on a regular basis. But for the most part, the swinger community is made up of couples who found their way into the lifestyle, enjoyed it and continued with it.
Swingers separate the physical act of sex from the emotional feelings of love and attachment. Society generally drills into our head that love and sex are one and the same, or at the least, we should strive to make them one and the same, but a realistic look at human nature and human society shows that that premise is completely ridiculous.
The physical act of sex in all it’s forms is pleasurable, to be sure, but desire and lust are certainly not the same as loving someone. And desire and lust are certainly not ‘sins’ as many would insist, as human nature and the animalistic need to find a sexual partner is as natural as the sun coming up every day.
But, many would say, it’s more ‘civilized’, more ‘noble’ to keep one’s urges under control, that to constrain one’s sexual needs to one partner is dignified and shows maturity.
It’s our view, instead, that that frame of mind is merely someone’s personal taste. As a swinger, we have a more hedonistic viewpoint, one that says as humans, given the gift of sex by our creator, we should be free to enjoy that gift so long as we’re not hurting someone else.
And that’s the real basis of swinging, and the difference between swinging and cheating…swingers are free to have sex with others, so long as that sex doesn’t hurt the relationship between themselves and their significant other and between themselves and their swinger partner. Cheating – whether it’s done in the context of the swinger community or not – is having sex with someone other than one’s significant other when there is the distinct possibility that that sexual encounter will hurt a relationship.
If you’re part of a couple, and you have sex with someone behind your significant other’s back – regardless of whether it’s in a swinger situation or not – you’re cheating. You might justify it, call it something else – but if your significant other doesn’t know about it and would be hurt if he or she knew, you’re cheating.
So, fellow hedonist and swinger: enjoy swinging. Enjoy sex. Enjoy having as many sex partners as you want. Enjoy giving and receiving orgasms.
But do so responsibly: cheating is NOT swinging!