There’s a fear that goes through every swinger the first time they walk through the doors of swing club: what if there’s someone here who knows me?
We’re here to tell you: RELAX. Swinging’s Golden Rule when it comes to seeing someone you know is that there’s NOTHING to be embarrassed about - that person you’re worried about running into is at the swinger club or in the online swinger chatroom FOR THE SAME REASON YOU ARE!
We’ve been to on-premise and off-premise clubs around the United States and Canada and every club is different. We’ve met dozens – if not hundreds – of people online, and every couple is different. Swingers cut through every demographic, every race, every class, every size, every shape, every profession on Earth. We’ve met doctors who were swingers, lawyers who were swingers, cops who were swingers. We’ve met teachers, Girl Scout leaders and church leaders, all swingers. We’ve met 18-year-old couples, we’ve met 75-year-old couples. We’ve met people who looked like models, we’ve met people who look like they’d scare small children in broad daylight. We’ve met Caucasians, African-Americans, Asians, Hispanics, Arabs and American Indians. We’ve met size 2s and size 62s. We’ve met people who drove to swing clubs in a sparkling new Ferrari, and we’ve met people who drove rusted-out ’79 Chevettes.
To paint a broad picture, the average swinger couple is probably middle-class, white, between 30-55 and married. But absolutely any couple you meet could be a swinger – and quite possibly has tried it! (Estimates are that up to 10 percent of Americans between 20-50 have taken part in some sort of ‘swinger’-type activity, with hundreds of thousands of people attending swinger parties or hooking up with other swingers every week).
Most swingers don’t care what you do for a living, how much money you make (or don’t), or whether you’re married or not. You’ll still see some clustering of people by age (older people tend to hang out with – and swing with – other older people), by race (although we’ve met a racist couple or two, generally racism is not a problem in the swinger community) and, somewhat unfortunately, by looks (the ‘hot’ people do tend to stick together and only swing with other ‘hot’ people)…it’s all kind of like dating in general…you generally end up swinging with people you might otherwise date!
Some people are long-time swingers who’ve been at it since the 1960′s (or before!) Many more have been at it since the 90′s and – again, somewhat unfortunately – there are definite cliques at most swinger clubs, as the ‘regulars’ all become close friends and forget about the ‘newbies’. But there are – every single week of the year – new couples just attending their first swinger party or meeting their first swinger couple.
So no matter your age, looks or income, don’t feel like you’re not going to ‘fit in’ – there’s plenty of room in the swinger community for everyone!
