Remember the first time you had sex? Sure, it was fun (at least we hope it was!) but it was probably a little awkward, maybe even kinda humorous at times, a little stressful, and certainly not the best sexual experience of your life (at least we hope not!)
Your first swinger experience is likely to be the same way…expect that you’ll be nervous (go ahead and get tipsy if you want to help take the edge off, but if you need to get sloshed to try swinging, you’re not ready yet!), expect that it’ll be a little awkward (should we make a move? should we wait for them to make a move?) and expect that it’s probably not going to be the greatest sexual experience of your life (but don’t worry, that’ll come in time!).
The best thing you can do is relax and have fun. If you’re naturally outgoing, be outgoing and you’ll meet people right away. If you’re not naturally outgoing, don’t worry, there are plenty of more-aggressive people out there and you’re not likely to be sitting around all night with nobody to talk to.
Expect that when the evening is done, you and your spouse will have a lot of talking to do…hopefully you’ll have plenty of good things to talk about (don’t be surprised if you and your partner have some fantastic sex when you get home!) but expect that there will be negative things to talk about as well.
Expect that some of the people you meet will not interest you in the slightest, and expect to have to deal with politely telling people ‘thanks but no thanks.’ Expect that the people you meet will come in all shapes, sizes, ages and colors.
Most of all, though, expect to have fun…swingers are all about having fun!
