Swinger College

You’ll hear it every time to talk to swingers, every time you attend a new party: the Golden Rule of Swinging: NO means NO.

If you want thrown out of a party on your ear – and we’ve seen it happen! – don’t listen when somebody tells you ‘no thank you.’
It’s a simple rule, but one that some people – guys, especially – seem to forget. Just because you’re in a sexual situation, just because all of the women you see around you are willing to have sex, just because you’re revved up and ready to go…no still means NO.
ALWAYS ask before touching. ALWAYS ask before getting involved in a sexual situation of ANY type at any club, party or meeting. You’ll avoid a whole lot of trouble with just a direct ‘may I?…’ because that question will either give you the go-ahead to do what you’re wanting to do – or tell you it’s time to look elsewhere for fun!
The worst situation is when someone – again, usually a guy, and usually, somehow, with his female half missing – ‘hangs around’ someone he’s looking to play with, trying to push his way into the action. Generally, if a couple wants you to be involved in some playing, they’ll tell you. If it’s a situation where you’re an outsider in a group that’s having or about to play and you want in…well, ASK. You may very well be told no, but at least you’ll avoid the dirty looks you’ll get when you ‘hang around’ too much.
And always…ALWAYS respect the people you’re with. If you’re not invited to play, pout all you want and go find someone else to play with, but don’t get pushy and ignore the NO or you WILL find yourself out on your ear!