DO understand what you’re getting yourself into when you start swinging.
DO make sure you and your partner are both understanding and eager to start swinging before trying it.
DO make sure to be honest when meeting people online – send current pictures, not high-school yearbook pictures from a decade (and 100 pounds) ago, give your real ages (or close!), and expect other people to do the same (if not, they’re not swinger material!)
DO make sure you’re actually talking to the person you think you’re talking to online – verify before making a real in-person contact.
DO decide ahead of time a plan when meeting swingers – where you’re meeting, whether it’s JUST a meeting or whether you’re expecting something afterwards – and make sure not only your partner knows, but the other swingers do as well.
DO decide before a swinger activity what, if any, rules there are between you and your significant other.
DO work out a signal if you want to tell your partner you’re NOT interested in someone you’re talking to!
DO dress sexy – but keep discreet when in public!
DO take care of your hygiene needs before meeting with swingers – shower, shave, deodorant, mouthwash – good grooming can’t be stressed enough!
DO be discreet when meeting swingers in a public spot. Most people aren’t wanting to advertise that they’re swingers to everyone sitting around them in a public place!
DO be honest when meeting people about whether you’re interested or not. Even if you meet a couple that’s very nice – but not your type – it’s ok say no. You can always still hang out without swinging!
DO drink, if you want to, but DO know your limits. Nobody likes a swinger who’s drunk off their ass – they’re obnoxious and tend to forget NO means NO.
DO bring along with you everything you’ll need for an evening of fun when going out…including condoms, lubes, toys or anything else you might want in bed.
DO communicate with any new swinger partner what you like and don’t like, sex-wise. You’ll enjoy it more if you’re getting what you want!
DO take the time to relax and have fun at swinger events…it’s not ALL about sex, you might just meet some really cool people!
DO take the time to thank anyone and compliment anyone who you play with…if you had a good time, tell them!
DO take the feelings of your partner into consideration when playing…if you’re having fun and they’re not, be understanding.
DO answer back emails when you’re emailed…and better late than never! If you’re trying to avoid someone, it’s always better to be straightforward and say ‘thanks but no thanks’ than deal with on-going problems!
DO deal with issues between you and your significant other BEFORE or AFTER leaving a swinger party or event. Nobody wants to watch a couple fight, it brings everyone down.
DO be patient…if you don’t have the experience you’re dreaming of…keep trying!
